Anger Management definition
Anger management is to give you the tools and at Coachingandlife we offer tools, training and forums practice, knowing anger management is one thing, practicing anger management is something very different.
When someone hurts you, you get angry and do something stupid – yes. You get angry shout, scream, hurt and break. How many people do not get in trouble for doing something stupid, because someone hurt them. Think about it – how smart is that.
We need to respond well to feedback that makes us angry, and how can we do that? We can only do that by teaching ourselves anger management.
We want to succeed, not make mistakes and do it wrong.
No, we want to be dynamic, flexible and smart and we need tools, training and learning to ensure, that we succeed. We do not get fired because we on purpose want to get fired. We get fired because we do not have the understanding of what demands we need to fulfill or the gap (look up Coachingandlife Gap analysis – or how to do a gap analysis).
Being fired does not mean you do not see the gap rise, it means that you do not know how to close the gap.This can make you angry, sad, depressed or stressed.
Respond well to feedback and anger management.
Anger management is about responding well to the feedback you get. If you cannot align with your boss, you need to find within yourself a way to make him feel you align, and then find yourself a different job, but most times if we get the facts, insight and evidence we need to understand, we can align and we can grow a resilient connection.
With our partners, we do not need to agree, we need to understand to align and the same goes for our work, job and business, if we can understand it, we can find a common alignment.
Let me tell you my story, anger management.
I was in a job where I could not find out how to leave, I was stuck in a situation where I was so scared of leaving and so scared of staying. Within me, I felt it was all wrong, and I use to be so scared of meeting the management of the hall going for coffee. I keep my path clean, did not engage in any of all the dinners, wine, or trips.
I was calming myself down and just trying to survive when they fired me all my fears came true, they did exactly what I expected, they were the meanest, liars all the way just fake, cheap, and cheat, just like the business. Today I am free, it has taken me 3 years to realize I am free, I am free. I can think what I believe, I can draw my own conclusions and I can speak my mind without being told to shoot up.
Taking the anger in and not expressing yourself in good manners, is wrong. I made all the mistakes you can make, when the pressure of cheap and cheat is on you. Anger was growing within and day by day, I was getting more and more scared of coming to work. I remember what a supplier said to me. Call in sick and stay home till they fire you. That advice I should have to listen to.
Anger management is about how you keep your values in place for yourself and your surroundings. To be happy your values must be met, and once you feel that happening a new kind of joy starts growing within you. It takes practice and at Coachingandlife you can practice, you can hear my story and hear how far out it took me. How much they were willing to do and how it feels when a million dollar company gets you. (read the e-book – the gap that had gone too far)
Anger management, anger management classes online, and anger management near you is all support to help you move on in a better way than you seem possible today.
Anger is an amazing tool when used correctly, it gives you power, energy, and strength to handle, craft, and do things you cannot do without anger. Think about when you need to add all your resources, the extra energy you get.
The challenge is to control and master anger management. We at Coachingandlife know the benefits of controlling and mastering anger management, and we know how it feels to make mistakes. Join us and speed your way to insight and facts to improve your life faster, smooth,ly and easy.
How to respond well to feedback that makes you angry.
The 3 most good ways to respond to feedback that makes you angry are expressing, suppressing, and calming way:
Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is always the best and the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make it clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. As you do not want other to hurt you.
Suppressing act as you did not know, and just listen, when we are suppressing we keep our own emotions on hold.
Calming relaxing and keep calm, wait until you have an overview of facts, insight, and evidence to respond well and dynamic.