Talk and listen why it all starts with what you say?

Here are 10 things to think about when you have problems, challenges, fear, and doubt, and why talk and listen are the metrics you need to keep the focus on.

The first thing we need to align on is how do people engage or interact with each other, we do with:

  • Talk and listen
  • Competition

We do not really hold any other way to engage, align or involve ourselves with other people. Either you are with me, or you are against me.

This very hard said but when you talk and people listen you either get them with you or you get them against you. Hard said but if people are not supporting you they are not with you.

Talk and listen

When you speak that is the starting point and when someone listens you take the next step forward. Talk and listen makes us engage, commit, acknowledge, learn, explore, when we talk and listen, we extend our world.

 

Commitment and talk

When people listen to your talk, they will commit to you or let you go. Commit and agree are the two first things you must feel when you talk and listen. If people do not ask you any questions or they just nod.

 

Listen and commitment

Listening to someone, hearing how they feel and what they believe is a new universe to you. It opens up for questions and desire to know more. When you listen you have questions to find understanding, alignment with what you know, feel and need.

 

Accountability and talk

What needs to be in place for you to be accountable? Did you ever think about who you are and all the areas where you are accountable today?

Who can count on you?

How did you accountability start, what did the person say, what kind of talk and listen did you have? What makes you accountable?

Listen and Accountability

Where is all this coming from? Why are we not accountable, if I ask you these questions: Are you a reliable person: You will answer yes. When the fact is that being accountable can only be answered by other people. How and where we are accountable needs to be clear to ourselves the people around us.

Work and Accountable

You are accountable as long as you have a contract.

Family and accountable

Is it really there anymore. How many families split, do not talk, or are not engaging? We use to have that family was the strongest bond we processed,  no longer.

How to be accountable to yourself and what you want? How to find the alignment with the accountability that matters to you.

Results from good talk and listen

Is the outcome going forward? Your ability to connect, engage and build the accountability you want not only with yourself but with your job, business, family, friends, and most importantly what you show your kids.

Watch and see

You cannot trust what you see, talk, and listen is where you get the true alignment. What you see is an illusion, it is why social media has risen at a speed beyond imagination. You believe what you see. I believe what I see. Once we start engaging and talking to each other we find the truth out how to talk and listen.

Watch how they talk and listen.

You do not need to do more than watch how they talk and listen. It’s not what they look like, and how they dress, it’s about how you feel when they talk and you listen, it is about when you talk how do they listen.

Think about where you see alignment in talk and listen to looks? And then think about where you do not see alignment in talk and listen to looks.

It is not what it looks like

Talk and listen is our strongest tool as human beings. We have the power to speak our mind, talk and we have the power to listen to each word and create meaning, understanding, vision, desires, hopes, and dreams. Yet most people choose to use the power of talk and listen to create fear, worry, and hate.

The negative in talk and listen

If you do not listen to me, I will not help you. Is that was is in the treat? Or what happens, when you ask for what you want?

The challenge is how to get alignment across and make good friends, find a good partner, have a great boss, love your family. How is all this going to come to you?

How many times do you align with people where it is 50/50 share and how many times do you choose to give in and just follow?

Positive strokes makes us talk and listen

Open you eyes, open your ears and listen, all learning happens when we listen to what we hear, read and see. We benefit, we extend.

We must ask to get it?

No soccer team would ever play without a coach, and the coach listens and talk. What are the core benefits for you to listen and talk as a coach and if you want to lead, why do you need to listen and talk?

Here is something for you to think about.

How to talk less and listen more

Why do you believe it is important to listen?

To understand we must listen, it is the only way we can find out what, where, how, and why another person believes, think,s or do as we do not understand.

If you want to meet and get to know another person you must listen to who that person is. You are not talking to a machine you are engaging with a human being, who just like you are finding his or her way.

We listen to know and we talk to see if we have understood correctly and we share our minds to find common understanding and alignment. To know how we feel comes out when we seek the align with or not align with others.

Take it from me, how we feel in the moment is what counts.

How to listen more and talk less

To engage and connect today is so easy, but to find real friends has never been more difficult. Who do you believe will be your friend for a life time?

Is there a friendship where listen and talk did not fall out as you expected.

Talk less and listen:

I had a job where I listened and talked, listen and talked and still I got fired. Do you know why? I know why because most times people do not know what it is they want.

I should have been smarter, instead of spending all my effort and time listening to what he said, I should have simply asked the question:

What do you want?

We need to let go and start asking for – what do you want from me? and what do I want.

When we listen, if we do not ask the questions we need, if we are silent, we assume we understand, but we do not understand at all.

We fail. We fail because listening is not enough it is only half way.

How to find instant relief

Matters much more than anyone of us can imagine

Let’s be honest

Where do you want it to lead, and how do you want to lead.

Did you ever think about why a coach ask questions? and does not give answers but only opportunities?

Why

Or why a therapist lets you speak forever, without they saying anything?

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