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Have you ever tuned out of a conversation?

Is Your Inner Dialogue Chaotic?

Have you ever tuned out of a conversation

because you are more involved in the discussion going on in your head? Did you find yourself getting irritated at the person droning on because it is distracting you from that argument raging within you?

You are not alone in feeling as though your inner dialogue is chaotic. Instead of constantly trying to drown things out, you find yourself turning everything down instead. All you want is to indulge those chaotic thoughts. You convince yourself that by arguing it out you will come to a solution, instead you find yourself at an impasse.

The Inner Voice

The reality of the matter is the majority of people are fueled by the voice in their head. That nonstop stream of thoughts. It is worth noting that the most negative thoughts seem to come through loud and clear, while the positive one’s whisper too quietly for you to make them out.

Often, that inner dialogue is humiliating, it is panic-ridden and defeatist. It wants to tear you down, drag you out, and leave you to suffer. It is tumultuous, creating chaos in your mind. That inner dialogue is driving your life and where do you think you are going if you are being driven by chaos and negativity? It is tough, but the only way to pull through it is to stay calm and override the chaos.

Where does this voice come from? It is built from birth. You absorb the tones of a teacher. The exasperated chiding from an angry parent or the put-downs of an unkind elder sibling. All of these external influences shape your inner dialogue. Unfortunately, we often absorb negativity. That allow it to take a prominent position, completely drowning out any positive voices trying to whisper in our ears. This is especially true when it is an authority figure. They repeat this message and it gets lodged in your inner dialogue.

The only way to counter this chaotic inner dialogue is by changing the way you think. This is an active task that you must undertake with intention. If you set about intentionally changing how you think and speak to yourself, you will notice a change in your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. Your inner dialogue can build you up or it can tear you down.

Changing the Dialogue

It is a difficult thing to do, to flip the script. It’s easier to fall back on the negative voice of your parent berating you for something when you were seven. It is to nurture the positive voice of that same parent praising you for something that same day. The brutish voices rise above the chaos and speak the loudest. The kind tone and words fade into the background.

Is Your Inner Dialogue Chaotic?

What causes chaotic inner dialogue? In addition to the past shaping it, it is often driven by stress. It manifests in chaotic, bullying inner dialogue. There is this sense of injustice we feel, for whatever reason, and it is difficult to overcome that when the blows keep coming.

So, how can you tell whether your inner dialogue is truly chaotic? A good test would be to look at your life. Is it chaotic? Is it making you miserable? Do you feel unhappy with your actions, thoughts, words, and choices? If so, then there is a good chance your inner dialogue is chaotic. If you shush people to retreat to the arguments in your head if you struggle to focus on tasks because those voices are too loud… then, your inner dialogue is chaotic.

It does not have to be. However ,it is possible to change your inner dialogue to a more positive tone. Also, It takes a lot of practice and you will need to consistently correct it with positive thoughts and affirmations. You should also enlist some stress management techniques to help calm your emotions to further control your inner dialogue.

Stress vs. The Relaxation State

Some days you can hang out around the house spending quality time with the family and not have a care in the world. Other days, your mind seems to be racing and nearly everything that’s occurred over the course of the day has only made you feel worse.

That is because the body has two major states: A stress state and a relaxation state. Depending on which state you are currently in, your physical, mental, and emotional states will all be vastly different. So, let us go over what you might experience in each of these states.

What is the stress state?

According to the Cleveland Clinic, when you are in the stress state, you are in a state of constant alert. Your nervous system constantly has the “fight-or-flight” mode activated, and your body and mind are both on edge just waiting for the next “dangerous” event to occur.

With extra adrenaline pumping through your body, you might notice that your heart is racing and that your blood pressure has skyrocketed. You might even begin to feel some tension building up throughout your body, whether that is in your muscles, joints, or in the form of a headache.

You could even make yourself physically sick in the form of nausea, stomach cramping, or even more susceptible to common illnesses like the cold or flu.

And forget about sleeping because the stress and anxiety are even more relentless at night.

Mentally, you might not be able to focus as well as you normally would. Your thoughts are racing, and it seems like your mind is bouncing around to 20 different ideas in a span of only a few minutes, and there is nothing that you can do to calm it.

You might snap at people when they approach you and have a lower tolerance for what you are able to “put up with” during the day.

It seems as if the smallest things will set you off, even though you are usually pretty calm.

What is the relaxation state?

According to the Mayo Clinic, being in the relaxation state involves having relatively low physical and mental tension flooding through your body.

If you had to describe how you were feeling, you could probably describe it as “calm.”

Unlike the stress state, your blood pressure and heart rate are both within healthy ranges and, in fact, might be lower than they normally are.

That is because you have far less cortisol (the stress hormone) pumping through your body, which helps to physically put your body at ease.

When you are relaxed, you might notice that any physical pain or muscle tension that has built up over the last several weeks is either less severe or completely gone.

Your body seems to be functioning normally and you just feel better than ever.

You can finally get to sleep at night and your stomach and head no longer ache at the thought of going to work, school, or any major event.

Furthermore, you are much easier to associate with and people are not afraid to bring you bad news in fear of how you would react.

Now you can tackle those big projects at work without fretting over every single task involved because you do not feel as overwhelmed.

Plus, you are more likely to see the positives in even the worst situations that are going on around you.

Final Thoughts

It is natural for your body to fluctuate between the stress and relaxation state. Meanwhile, it is depending on what is going on in your life physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Though you can’t entirely prevent the stress state from coming on. However, you can put in the effort to identify your stressors and develop healthy coping strategies.

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