Life takes us strange places, life changes all the time and the skills, that is needed follow. As "Coco Chanel said " - in order to be Irreplaceable you must be different. How do I understand - what does another see, when they look at me. I measure myself on my intentions - but they measure me on my results

As a member of by invitation only

you engage, you learn, you grow, your focus is on know-how, skills, knowledge, and awareness.

With the wish to take the opportunity to discover yourself, to reach out for the journey you want

and to join others for which your feedback and knowledge makes a difference.

Most of us learn, when we are in an environment, where we all are learning,

A life coach learns when practicing, here we get to practice a lot, we seek to help each other, notice this is not for one to one coaching. Here you will discover your own voice, understand your talent in areas, and you will get the feedback you never dreamed of.

Hear your own voice and express yourself.

Cal is about you finding your voice, you being vocal, finding your right way and journey. Cal is about you learning, growing, about your discovering your own talents, wisdom, and opportunities.

With respect, we recognize and create ways and we give a voice to all five parts of our nature

Physically, mentally emotionally, socially, spiritually

In the forum by invitation only, you use all of yourself.

CAL is an open forum where skills and know how is exchanged for improvement for each one of us. We help upgrade know how. We open up for new knowledge and usage to achieve better results, this is about making a difference- it is about improvements.

Design your way.

Make it happen to make the difference you need in order to make it happen, only you can do, only you know what it requires to make it happen:

We start with:

Congruence, you need to be congruent with what you want.

Positively stated, it must be positively formulated, you cannot – not  think about a pink elephant

Resourced and realistic, you must have or acquire the resources your need

Initiated and maintained by yourself, you need to ask yourself do you have what it takes

Ecological is must be positive and ecological

Evidence criteria, how will you know that you have achieved your goal or outcome

Time-phased, make a timeline that is realistic and remember a dream that has no deadline is a wish.

Coaching is about the outcome, it is about, what we value and what we want to the accomplice.

Whatever you focus on, is what you get.

Why it is good to talk about outcome instead of a goal is because the outcome has the consequences involved, this is sometimes where we are not aligned or congruent with our outcome or goal think about below for a second: #Think about the following from the book – the 8^th habit.( page 79):

Wealth without work

Pleasure without conscience

Knowledge without character

Commerce without morality

Science without humanity

Workship with sacrifice

Politics without principle

“A new philosophy a new way of life is not given for nothing. It has to be paid dearly for and only acquired with much patience and great effort” – by Fyodor Dostoevsky.#

We can even add a few more to the list:

Overweight without food

Strong body without excise

Alcoholic without alcohol – that is the simplest one and easy for us all to understand, the fact is that we as humans are complex and nothing is the same. Why am I not where I want to be, why do I think it needs to be different? There is something inside you that is so strong that and you have to reach out for it. Then you know, then you can make the difference to achieve your outcome. You are willing to do what it takes.

That is why it is very important to each one of us, that we know that we get what we focus on, there is a lesson here if we want to – if you do not want what you have, you need to change, you need to focus on something else, do it differently.

In all our doings in life, if we look at the feedback we get then the feedback will tell you if you are going in the right direction, where you want to be.

Coaching is a powerful tool to make learning how to make it happen, this does not mean that if you know coaching that it will happen. Only you can make it happen, and it is all your doing, that will make it happen.

You will have to use your capabilities and look within you to find the motivation and enthusiasm to make it happen. You will on the journey be challenged by the most powerful person you know, yourself. You will need to take care of all the inner changes that are being challenged, supported, changed for you to go towards your new outcome, unsafe territory and on this journey, you must stay congruent. To stay congruent is to love, believe, aware and trust yourself that you have choices and outcome that will make you an even better and that you have what it takes.

This is why we have the forum, the blog, and this is what we believe. You can do it and you can make a difference in your life. You already know it. You just have to do it.

In the different memberships, you work differently,

By invitation, only-members uses the life stories and life tools and knowledge to help each other with all we can. The outcome you want, the feeling you want how do you achieve it.

What can you do in your situation?

What is wise to do.

By invitation only uses both ME and MY, we use our lives, our skills, knowledge to whom we are, how do I use my person best way, we look at best practice. We challenge each other for higher levels.