How to get the right leadership skill and know what to work for.
Scope for this first introduction is to give you an overview of, what we as a group a newly meetup group was facing as our road to find the major 3 things we wanted to focus on.
The team of
1. Divya Parakh CEO (faciliatory)
2. Regina Bergman,
3. Karen Hover
4. Heidi Garrett
5. Deborah Thorne
6. Bryan C Dunn
7. Shelia Heard
9. Mike Wynm
10. Omkar Velankar
11. Berit Ladefoged
To give you a short background story the group people from around the world who from different angles touches the leadership and see the impact and influence leadership has.
Scope for our 4 blogs is to give you as a reader an overview from different angles of leadership, maybe even give your ideas to how you want to be a leader yourself.
Please read the introduction to all members to understand their background and where they are coming from.
The introduction was done to enroll an alignment in a common platform for what leadership in the future must enroll.
We talk leadership, we join seminars, we write books, we team up and yet we are still struggling to find the recipe for great leadership.
Why is it so hard to be a good leader?
During our call we had much input that was similar to each other, we could relate to what the other person was saying, yet we did see a twist in each comment.
Flooris van der Walt
Opened the talk to authentic leadership, we need more authentic leaders. This last week I was thinking a lot about the question on leadership and why I preferred «authenticity» and not something like «integrity» or «value-based» – now I can
I believe it has to do with which reference point I use, so that all would understand what I mean by leadership:
In the case of authenticity, the reference point is the person her-/himself – who can have a good or evil streak, though we saw in different settings that even a person with an evil streak can be loved and appreciated by others.
The situation with integrity and value based is that the reference point then lies with others to decide on what is integrity or which values should be referred to. This makes it very situational and person-dependent on whether a leader behaves correctly or not. Certain behavior in certain cultures or environment are acceptable meaning seen as integer to exhibit, while in other cultures it is a no go, e.g. only working/dealing with or through friends and family vs. nepotism.
I believe that leadership development should focus on getting the self-awareness of the leader to overlap as far as possible with how others see him/her. If this is the case, one develops a congruent self-understanding or we can call it self-image, which forms the base for stable behavioral patrons and therefore a base for building trust – which in my mind is essential for leadership.
I hope that this is self-explanatory otherwise we can reflect on it next week (I cannot join this afternoon, due to another appointment). In the meantime, enjoy the discussion.
To answer the second question: I believe leadership is such a big topic that staying on the topic and get to a definition, development or identification of leadership can keep us going for the 5 sessions.
Introduced the inner ability for flexibility
Introduced the importance of the whole human from nutrition to mind-set.
What is leadership and why can’t leaders do it?
In response I felt that our conversation had a lot of interesting answers in particular ‘Leadership’ is the ability to show up and listen. To allow others to follow by example.
John F Kennedy ws reported to say that leadership and learning are indispensable. As leaders our minds must be agile, adaptable and keep learning.
Plus the topic of integrity gave me permission to keep doing my version of leadership my way. Sheila’s comments hit home for me, she opened up ‘permission’ and integrity. Unless we are leaders in our own domain with total integrity and to use her phrase ’total wholeness’ then we can’t lead.
Leadership is being coachable and adaptable to change, which was a feeling that I felt came across from everyone’s comments.
Bryan’s comment on being self reflective and self efficacy were also great points, and allows us as leaders to dive deep. Deep into our own personal accountability and into others. I would love to explore with the group the point about ‘willingness to change’. We are all self motivators, how do you encourage others?
As leaders we have the ability and understanding that change needs to happen, but what is the trigger that allows that to happen for others?
Personally I use health and wellness as a trigger for change. A clearer mindset and adaptability comes with strong nutritional and movement foundations. The fog starts to clear and a more focused understanding to what is occurring in our minds and subconscious becomes apparent
Carol Dweck’s work on Fixed and Growth mindset is an approach I use with clients and I outline in my book Gorgeous! How to look and feel fantastic every day www.get-gorgeous.com/book where I explain my view on neuroscience, bio chemistry come together with the the law of attraction.
With a fixed mindset nothing can change, the dendrites of the brain cells cannot make connections, we are closed down in our thinking. A growth mindset opens the brain up to new ideas, new connections are made, when the individual sees that anything is possible, this has a knock on effect, open to changes in our bodies which sets off a waterfall of biochemistry effects – or simply put – what you think about you bring about.
If every leader has a growth mindset, in our own providence then we can change our lives and others. It begins and ends with our own integrity. Again, very powerful Sheila.
The second question that was posed by lovely Divya is was what would I like to get from the sessions?
I think openness and allowing vulnerability would help me. A safe place to talk and be heard.
Introduced the importance and value for companies
Introduced the component how can we support leaders
Introduced the integrity of who we are as leaders
Introduced the influence and impact we have as leaders, and will be leading the next sessions to come.
Introduced how important leadership is, and how a leader must be able to relate to the people that they are working
Open the talk to how can we lead in a world where people come to a totally different background. Where we stand today we need to find new ways of giving people even better foundation to want to be part of making some happen. Find the passion.
Overall the input
from each and one of us has led to what is the first thing in leadership and what are the signs and awareness of a good leader and even more important how can you as individual practice and become the leader you aim for.
Good leadership is defined by the people you are around – it’s the impact you do on another person, how you manage to find
We will continue our talk –
1. WHAT DOES LEADERSHIP INTEGRITY MEAN TO YOU?
2. WHAT SHOULD IT BE?
For analyze and an open mind, we will over the next coming weeks give our input to how we see good leadership in the future to come.
Good leadership is what we all will be in need of to unit and find a way of bringing this on common track. How to create products, services, and a world we all want to live in.
Good leadership is the
element and the influence that will support and guide us forward.
What is your input?
The key to good leadership starts with the awareness of wanting to improve not only your own performance but what is around you. Leadership is when you step out from thinking about what is good for yourself.
Most great leaders are not brilliant at taking care of themselves. Think about Rosewelt, Margrethe Thatcher. Leaders how lead the world have a very different focus and what is their scope.
Where does it all come from?
Leadership integrity is all about being authentic in every choice, action, and way of being, even if it doesn’t seem to match the convictions of modern society. All of the greatest leaders looked within themselves and to their deepest understandings of Truth to create movements for change, even when the concepts seemed unpopular. Their passion and sincerity create a movement for change. The best way I see that a true leader is in integrity is by observing them, not just when they are speaking to others, but also, they are truly living what they tell others to do.
Rarely, does a true leader step out and they’re ideas immediately become popular. They often face resistance from established beliefs, ideals, and established authorities that may be comfortable with their positions. Albert Einstein was ridiculed as a moron and now is known as one of our greatest scientific minds. Jesus Christ was kicked out of his own home and persecuted for shifting spiritual consciousness. Rev. Martin Luther King and Abraham Lincoln both shaped the way we perceive slavery today, yet at the time were both highly unpopular and even killed for their beliefs!
Even today, we can observe leaders of thought and ideas being imprisoned, ridiculed, or worse in the media to distract from their messages.
One attribute all leaders must have to stay in integrity is courage. It takes massive courage and faith to know that you are called to serve on a higher level and be willing to step up to take on that role, even knowing that it may not be readily accepted.
True integrity for any leader should mean that they choose to live, speak, and be the message they are called to share, no matter what.
Strong words that give good meaning,
This opens a new gate to even more questions for good leadership.
Where what does authentic and integrity mean. How can we ask people to be authentic in a fake world, we love it all we love the success and the glory, but true leadership is not about what you gain personally, it’s about what you stand up for?
So, do you need to be authentic to be a good leader.
Because what you bring forward comes from your own doing? So it is not as much what you say, it is more what you do?
The input from our first call clearly defined, the fact that we have different layers of leadership and we are facing different approaches towards how to use our leadership.
The leadership skills that are developed at this moment and time is the power of guidance that is going to take this world to the future we are all going to live in. Which is why the impact will be even greater. The mindset we have today can it take us to where we want to go, and how can we great leadership skill from the knowledge we process.
We must always keep in mind that whatever we say – is defined from where we come from.
Who thought that Procurement tools would lead to a world with cheap overloaded none compliant products? Who thought that plastic would end up in our sea’s word wide? Who thought that the way companies used people in the 80’es and 90’es would take away the loyalty that people have towards companies?
Our next two sessions are going to be
Acknowledgment vs Encouragement
- How to use courage within difficult situation
- Personal encouragement
- What is authentic leadership (integrity)
- Deepening of the learning
- How can you use your humanness working with people?
- How to be human and connect with people in Leadership of action
- How can a authentic leader ensure not to leave anyone behind?
- How much of truth telling
Women leadership versus male leadership
Topics will follow.
Coming back to the our groups talks
To support and define what aspect and what is future leadership. Going forward who can support people and members be great leaders and how will we be able to acknowledge their work and mindset.
It seems that great leadership is not acknowledged before years after when it comes to our awareness that we did take a good turn and we should have listened.
Having said all this, we are still in a Zero mistake and perfect culture and we still face the challenge that people do not dare to ask. Silence has taken over and people do not care no more about how their company does? You give it when you are there and then you let it go.
- How can leadership navigate with people if they are not there?
- How can companies get great performance?
Please define a good company and why you think they perform well – add your voice to our blog and give us input to how you believe that future leadership looks, if you do not want your name public or mentioned you can send coachingandlife and e-mail and we will confidential add your voice to subject or you can sign into coachignandife.com and write directly on the blog – with everyone involved – that is a safe place to talk.
Going forward leadership will be defined and going forward leadership must improve all circumstance for mankind and the earth. The challenges have never been larger, information flow is faster than voice, and changes happen overnight. Time will define what good leadership must enroll and our prediction and foreseen must stand it’s test.
Tell us what you think,
Tell us how you see future leadership
Share with us the 3 cores values you think a leader should process
Tell us about a good experience you have had
We can never know too much about what good leadership is as it will help us to see what is not good leadership and support and guide us to choose the right companies to work for, the right companies to buy products from, the right companies to learn from.
Leadership is the key for our future and will enroll many changes.