Our thoughts and beliefs can sabotage our relationships, whether it’s friendship, business, or romantic. When you’re plagued with thoughts of worthlessness and low esteem you can develop the habit of negative mind chatter. For instance, I’ll give you a brief scenario. Meet a girl named Amy. She tells herself, she’s fat, too athletic, unattractive, and a failure. She constantly compares herself to others and thinks to herself, “If only I were thin, more feminine, ambitious, and pretty.” So when Amy meets someone who treats her with respect, she thinks “Oh, he/she was just being nice” When anybody does something nice to her, she assumes that “Oh he/she does that for everyone.” These thoughts may seem harmless on the surface, but when constantly repeated it devalues your qualities. You are basically putting that energy out to the universe saying: “I’m not worthy enough for anyone to go out of their way to do something nice for me.” This thought, that you aren’t worthwhile, only steals the joy from your relationships. Instead of enjoying the present moment and social outing, you are too fixated that you said or did something wrong. You put yourself in uncomfortable situations just to please other people. You downplay compliments and second guess your decisions. This is how powerful our thoughts are when we get stuck in a lack mindset. When you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, you look for faults in your relationships just to prove all along you weren’t good enough. You never allow your guard down because you are on a subconscious level just waiting to be hurt or abandoned; and you don’t allow yourself to genuinely trust and enjoy the relationship. Essentially, until you truly learn to accept and love all of you, you’ll never allow yourself to feel loved by others.
You have to learn to love yourself
Before you allow yourself
The Importance of Loving Yourself By: Maggie Berberian We’ve all heard the saying, “In order to have others love and respect you, you need to love yourself first.” You may ask yourself, what do you mean I have to love myself? I do love myself. Challenge yourself to look at this cliche quote a bit differently.