How Many Meaningful Experiences Have You Had in Life?
by Shelia Heard
We sometimes struggle with the fact that we don’t feel as if we’ve had a truly meaningful experience in our lives. It makes you feel stuck, as if where you’re at now is all you can ever have or be.
It doesn’t have to turn out this way. If you’re in a career you can’t stand, and wish you were your own boss, you can do it. You can have a meaningful career that provides personal satisfaction where you wake up day after day eager to get to work.
You might not know what it even feels like to have a meaningful experience, or what would satisfy you personally. First, you should figure out what makes an experience meaningful.
Most commonly, a meaningful experience is an event or other experience that has made a considerable impact on you, or otherwise shaped who you are. It might have been a positive experience that left you feeling more confident, or it might have been scarring and left you feeling vulnerable.
However, some people feel as if they never really had a defining moment that changed them, and they crave such an experience. For some, meaningful experiences have come naturally, but not for all.
Some people may have to go out and experience something for themselves. Typically, this will involve you getting out of your comfort zone and overcoming one of your fears. For example, if you have always been terrified of heights, book a skydiving session.
If you’re scared of the ocean, try out scuba diving. If you do something mundane or something that you’re comfortable with, it won’t stand out as meaningful or have any real impact on who you are.
Really, the only thing that can make an experience meaningful is you. No matter what you do, you must be able to take meaning away from it when it’s done. If you’re afraid of heights and go skydiving, it doesn’t help you if you don’t take a feeling of pride and courage from it when you’re done.
You must be able to give meaning to these events, because no event inherently has meaning. You can even choose to give positive meaning to otherwise negative events. For example, you can take away the positive experience of having pushed through with rough times if you get fired, and later find another job.
Having meaningful experiences is extremely important for you if you want to be successful. When faced with adversity in the business world, you need to be able to look back on something that you thought you could never do, like skydiving, and that will give you the drive to overcome your obstacles – such as fear of hosting a webinar or being on a video blog.
If you can overcome your worst fears, then everything in the business world is easy. By having reference and source of courage, you’ll be able to work toward your goals with much more confidence, making sure you’re accomplishing them quicker.
How to Handle Adversity with Your Head Held High
It can sometimes be very difficult to face adversity with confidence, and usually it’s all in our own heads. We begin to think of unreasonable worst-case scenarios, which incites panic, and then we can’t stand up to the issue at all out of fear or anxiety.
For example, your boss at work might be treating you unfairly, and you want to confront them about it. However, you start to worry that your boss might fire you if you confront them.
Then, you open the door to more unreasonable thoughts, such as, “What if I can’t find another job?” You won’t allow yourself to dream big with thoughts of achieving the desired result – or even exiting the company and having a successful career as an entrepreneur.
To tackle adversity well, you must first divide the realistic outcomes from the unrealistic. If your mind is crowded with absurd what-ifs, then you won’t be able to take on adversity confidently.
When an unrealistic scenario pops into your mind, think to yourself, if somebody told you that this happened to them, would you believe them? If the answer is no, you can probably dismiss it as an unlikely scenario that you don’t have to worry about.
Worrying about unlikely scenarios too much could increase the probability that they occur, because if you’re too concerned with them happening, you might say the wrong thing or say something that you didn’t mean to out of stress.
Once you have only realistic scenarios in mind, then you can think about what the worst case is. Consider how likely the worst case is to occur, and what the consequences of it occurring would be.
If the consequences aren’t too severe, you can be confident that even if it goes all wrong, you can still recover and be okay. Similarly, if the chances of a poor outcome are very slim, then you can find confidence in knowing that you’ll probably be fine no matter what.
Finally, you need to realize that by being confident, you’re increasing your chances of a positive outcome. If you go into a job interview feeling nervous, the employer will be able to pick up on that.
If you try to lead an online niche audience with fear of competition or ridicule, they’ll sense it and be turned off. While you can’t be overly confident, people will often respond better to confident people than they will to unconfident people.
It’s much harder to get respect when you’re not holding your head high, and without respect, it’s difficult to overcome adversity. By tackling your problems confidently, you’re not only going to be more successful in facing them, but you’ll also feel more accomplished at the end of the day.
Life can appear complicated, but there is a proven process to the madness, and it works for any situation. If you want more tips or support, then schedule a FREE Empowerment Discovery Call by clicking the link: