Meaning Of Success
by Shelia Heard
If you define “success” by what we see in the movies and on television, your model probably includes lots of cash, mansions, expensive cars, and gorgeous men and women. A great fantasy, but not the model we’ll be discussing here. Sorry.
There is a television show that hints at a more interesting, more realistic model of success.
Have you ever seen Shark Tank? It’s a very entertaining weekly television show on which five “Sharks” who are multi-millionaires or billionaires decide which entrepreneurs they will fund. All the Sharks love to make money and are not shy about saying so.
An interesting thing to watch, though, is the criteria the Sharks use to choose which entrepreneurs they will support. It’s not enough that their products will make money. It often comes down to whether the Sharks have a passion for the product because, while they are not concerned about their monetary investment in the product – they are sure it will make money, they are very concerned about how they invest their time. This tells you a great deal about how these extremely successful people define “success.”
If you’ve picked up this report, you must have some questions about how to be successful. Maybe your first two are
- How can I be successful?
- How can I make money?
We all want to make money — there’s nothing wrong with that. At all! But the most successful people will tell you that there’s more to success than making money. In fact, a lot of wealthy people think that making money is the easy part!
In all honesty, successful people often cut out everything but reaching their business/monetary goals for a time, but later included other areas like a social life and family so that they could live full, satisfying lives.
This report will show you seven critical steps to being successful, not just with making money but with your life. Many of the qualities you need to be financially successful are the same ones you need to live a more fulfilling life.
Self-esteem is at the root of more success stories and more failures than any other personality trait. Why is self-esteem so important? Because it controls the results of everything you do. It’s always with you, and it can be your strongest supporter or greatest enemy. You will operate at the level of your self-esteem.
If you think you deserve something and your self-esteem is at a level for you to get it, your self-esteem will unconsciously help you achieve what you want by guiding you in every action you take. But if your self-esteem is at a level where you cannot see yourself achieving something, it will make sure that you don’t achieve it. No matter how hard you try.
Research has shown this many times. That’s why taking care of your self-esteem is one of the most important things you can do to be successful. Luckily, if you didn’t happen to grow up with strong self-esteem, as an adult you can raise your self-esteem or even create it.
One way to raise your self-esteem is to take an honest look at yourself – your good points and your bad points. This works because it’s been found that most people with low self-esteem have an inaccurate picture of themselves – a picture that causes them to see themselves as lacking and potentially failing.
In order to be successful, you must see yourself as successfully turning challenges into opportunities and you must trust your ability to enhance your life in positive ways. When you feel this way about yourself, it will show up in every area of your life.
This is not just a philosophical idea; studies have shown that our level of self-esteem creates our body and brain chemistry. Good self-esteem comes from three sources:
- Hearing good things about yourself.
- Thinking good things about yourself.
- Doing things that make you proud of yourself.
Once you know that practicing these things will raise your self-esteem, it’s not that hard to, is it? For instance, saying affirmations about yourself to yourself really works, provided they are true. And don’t you know from your own experience how good it feels to do something positive for someone else?
Every thought that you say to yourself is programming your brain. Studies have shown that as much as 87% of what people say to themselves is negative. But you can consciously train yourself to resist negative thinking and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. This is completely within your control, so be sure that your self-talk builds you up rather than tears you down.
Every morning when you get up to decide that this will be a day when you build your self-esteem with positive self-talk. This will affect everything else that you do each day.
Avoid negative situations such as unhealthy or bad habits, arguing, hurting someone else, or failing to take positive action when you have a chance to. All these things diminish good self-esteem. Instead, be good to yourself, treat yourself with respect, and treat other people with respect. Tell the truth; be honest with yourself and others. This creates high self-esteem, while negative things like lying or taking advantage of other people create low self-esteem.
Build other people up because when you do that, it’s a cue to your self-esteem to build you up to. Every negative thing you do to yourself or others brings your self-esteem down, while every positive thing you do to yourself or others brings your self-esteem up.
Most people don’t understand the direct relationship between self-esteem and success. Now that you understand it, make the right choices to keep your self-esteem high.
In the end, each one of us is the sum of all his actions. When you look back on your life, what you did every day brought you to where you are now; what you will do every day from now on will determine your future. The better you are at taking responsibility for that fact, the more successful you will be.
Taking responsibility for everything in your life is the difference between managing your life and being a victim. Have you ever known someone who blames other people or fate whenever something goes wrong? I’ll bet that that person isn’t very successful, right? There’s a saying, “You can’t be a victim and a victor.” This is true. There’s no way around it. Either you take charge, act, and then take responsibility for the results, or you take what’s left to you as a victim.
What’s holding you back from achieving more success? Do you feel like you’re in control of your destiny? Could it be that your fears are getting in your way? Studies have shown that 60% of our fears are totally without basis; 20% are about past experiences and so are out of our control; another 10% are just petty distractions. That leaves 10%, and only 4% to 5% of those are really justified. And of that 4% to 5%, we can only do something about 2%. So, the logical thing for each one of us to do is to get to work on that 2%!
Taking responsibility means planning your activity and acting. Here are some areas to do that in:
- Control your time – Don’t let it control you and don’t waste it. Plan what you’re going to do with your day and do it. Things will come up, but don’t let them destroy your day.
- Control your thoughts – As we discussed in the self-esteem chapter, managing your thoughts so that they are positive is one of the most important things you can do to be successful.
- Choose the people you spend time with – You can’t change all the people you work with or even live with, but you can manage the amount of time you spend with each one, and you can choose to include more positive people whom you can learn from in your life.
- Control your commitments – Commit your energy and your time only to positive people, projects, and goals. It’s easy to get caught up in things that are not producing positive results for you, but that leads to you being a victim not a victor.
Taking responsibility is your path to becoming successful. The alternative is to be a victim who must rely on what others leave you.
Why do you suppose that so many people never achieve their goals in life? The answer, unfortunately, is that they never set them. It’s so true — to the extent that only one in five Americans reach the age of 65 without having to depend on Social Security, and that includes people in supposedly high-paying professions like doctors and lawyers.
Most people don’t plan at all. They work during the week and spend what they earned on the weekends. They waste their money, energy, and time.
That’s a great waste of a powerful, natural resource, the human mind. Did you know that once we set a target or goal, our mind becomes an automatic system that monitors feedback regarding that target? According to Dr. Maxwell Maltz in Psycho Cybernetics, once you set a goal, your mind adjusts your course depending on any new data it gets. It makes corrections so that you can stay on target. The more specific the goal is, the better the corrections are. Furthermore, our brains can’t tell the difference between an event that really took place and one that was vividly imagined. So, if you clearly and firmly set a goal, in your brain it is as if the goal has already been achieved.
Take the time now to write a goal statement. Write it in the first person, using pronouns like “I,” “my,” “mine,” and “me.” Keep your goal statements short and to the point. Be emphatic. Be positive. For instance, “I am raising my self-esteem with positive statements and positive actions today.”
Remember, the more specific you make your goals, the better your chance to achieve them. These techniques may be helpful to you:
- Set short range goals that will build toward your long-range goals. Start with short time periods, such as a week or a month and then build your long-term goals for six months, one year, or five years. When you use a specific time frame, it helps you measure your success.
- Set goals that inspire you, but that is also realistic and achievable. Set a series of goals so that you are going step-by-step. That way, it’s easier to adjust them as needed. Along the way. It also inspires confidence in you as you keep reaching your goals.
- Share your goals with an individual or group who might have similar goals. It’s great reinforcement.
- Celebrate the achievement of your goals with rewards. It could be a small reward at each step along the way or a bigger reward like a trip or a dinner when you’ve achieved milestones.
- Keep your goals somewhere where you can access them easily. Don’t write them and put them away somewhere since out of sight usually means out of mind.
- Guard your goals. Don’t share them with negative people who probably won’t encourage you. Share them with positive people who wish you well.
Now that you know what a powerful tool goal setting is, why don’t you start making use of it today? It’s a powerful but easy way to help you achieve the success you want.
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