Design Your Way

Design your way.         

Make it happen, make the difference you need in order to make it happen, only you can do, only you know,  what it requires to make it happen. Within coaching, we believe that each goal or outcome start with the

Congruence, you need to be congruent with what you want.

Positively stated, it must be positively formulated, you can not, not think about a pink elephant

Resourced and realistic, you must have or acquire the resources you need

Initiated and maintained by yourself, you need to ask yourself do you have what it takes

Ecological is must be positive and ecological

Evidence criteria, how will you know that you have achieved your goal or outcome

Time-phased, make a timeline that is realistic and remember a dream that has no deadline is a wish.

Why the long list – why make the effort, to do above

– you really need to commit, think how many times you did say yes and still it never happened,

What should be the difference this time, why commit, why to do it, only you can answer those questions, it is also only you that can collect the success, no one else.

Your doing – your direction – your accomplishment. Coaching – you writing out your challenges can give you an awareness, that can make you see the steps needed to be taking – to make the difference in making it happen.

You can do it.

A good question could be are you willing to do what it takes ? are you congruent with your outcome?

Coaching is about an outcome, it is about, what we value and what we want to accomplice. Whatever you focus on, is what you get. You will properly say, that this is not true, then with within CAL ask you, if you focus on something do you not get it? yes, we all do.

The reason, why it is good to talk about outcome instead of a goal is because the outcome has the consequences involved, this is some time where we are not aligned or congruent with our outcome or goal think about below for a second:

#Think about the following from the book – the 8th habit.( page 79):

Wealth without work

Pleasure without conscience

Knowledge without character

Commerce without morality

Science without humanity

Workship with sacrifice

Politics without principle

“A new philosophy a new way of life is not given for nothing. It has to be paid dearly for and only acquired with much patience and great effort” – by Fyodor Dostoevsky.#

We can even add a few more to the list:

Overweight without food

Strong body without excise

Alcoholic without alcohol – that is the simplest one and easiest for us all to understand, the fact is that we as humans are complex and nothing is the same. Why am I not, where I want to be, why do I think it needs to be different?

If you can think, you want it differently, you also have the ability to make it different. If you can see an issue or problem you own it.

There is something inside you that is so strong that and you have to reach out for it. Then you know, then you can make the difference to achieve your outcome. You are willing to do what it takes.

 

That is why it is very important to each one of us, that we know that we get what we focus on, there is a lesson here if we want to – if you do not want what you have, you need to change, you need to focus on something else, do it differently.

In all our doings in life, if we look at the feedback we get then the feedback will tell you if you are going in the right direction, where you want to be.

Coaching is a powerful tool to make learning how to make it happen, this does not mean that if you know coaching that it will happen. Only you can make it happen, and it is all your doing that will make it happen.

 

You will have to use your capabilities and look within you to find the motivation and enthusiasm to make it happen. You will on the journey be challenged by the most powerful person you know, yourself. You will need to take care of all the inner changes that are being challenged, supported, changed for you to go towards your new outcome, unsafe territory and on this journey, you must stay congruent.

To stay congruent is to love, belief, aware and trust yourself that you can choose the outcome that will make you an even better strong and that you have what it takes.