Design your way.
Make it happen to make the difference you need in order to make it happen, only you can do, only you know what it requires to make it happen. Within coaching, we believe that each goal or outcome starts with the
Congruence, you need to be congruent with what you want.
Positively stated, it must be positively formulated, you cannot not think about a pink elephant
Resourced and realistic, you must have or acquire the resources you need
Initiated and maintained by yourself, you need to ask yourself do you have what it takes
Ecological is must be positive and ecological
Evidence criteria, how will you know that you have achieved your goal or outcome
Time-phased, make a timeline that is realistic and remember a dream that has no deadline is a wish.
Coaching is about an outcome, it is about, what we value and what we want to an accomplice. Whatever you focus on, is what you get.
You will properly say, that this is not true, then within CAL ask you, if you focus on something do you not get it? yes, we all do.
The reason, why it is good to talk about the outcome instead of a goal is because the outcome has the consequences involved, this is sometimes where we are not aligned or congruent with our outcome or goal think about below for a second:
#Think about the following from the book – the 8th habit.( page 79):
- Wealth without work
- Pleasure without conscience
- Knowledge without character
- Commerce without morality
- Science without humanity
- Workship with sacrifice
- Politics without principle
“A new philosophy a new way of life is not given for nothing. It has to be paid dearly for and only acquired with much patience and great effort” – by Fyodor Dostoevsky.#
We can even add a few more to the list:
- Overweight without food
- Strong body without excise
Alcoholic without alcohol – that is the simplest one and easy for us all to understand, the fact is that we as humans are complex and nothing is the same.
Why am I not where I want to be, why do I think it needs to be different? There is something inside you that is so strong that and you have to reach out for it.
Then you know, then you can make the difference to achieve your outcome. You are willing to do what it takes.
That is why it is very important to each one of us, that we know that we get what we focus on, there is a lesson here if we want to
– if you do not want what you have, you need to change, you need to focus on something else, do it differently.
In all our doings in life, if we look at the feedback we get then the feedback will tell you if you are going in the right direction, where you want to be.
Coaching is a powerful tool to make learn how to make it happen, this does not mean that if you know coaching that it will happen.
Only you can make it happen, and it is all your doing that will make it happen.
You will have to use your capabilities and look within you to find the motivation and enthusiasm to make it happen.
You will on the journey be challenged by the most powerful person you know, yourself.
You will need to take care of all the inner changes that are being challenged, supported, changed for you to go towards your new outcome, unsafe territory and on this journey, you must stay congruent.
To stay congruent is to love, believe, aware and trust yourself that you have chosen and outcome that will make you an even better and that you have what it takes.
This is why we have the forum, the blog, and this is what we believe. You can do it and you can make a difference in your life. You already know it. You just have to do it.
In the different memberships you work differently, within me-members seek, support, help each other in our lives to be who we want to and to work on our outcomes in life.
Within the my-members we focus on the different coaching’s techniques we can use or mentor skills. We help, support each other to be good coaches that help our clients get the best out of their lives.
Within by invitation only, we use them both, we use our lives, our skills, knowledge to whom we are and the coaches we are, how do I use my person best way, we look at best practice. We challenge each other for higher levels.